Month: December 2025

WTF – friendship??

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Lost friendship. Well, you can’t lose what you never had.

Blown away by Diane C. This woman manipulated me, blew smoke at me, instigated many conflicts. All in the guise of ‘being a friend’. She sent me notes saying how much she valued our friendship – our closeness. And yet, and YET.

I have come to realize that she was never a friend. Maybe a little insecure about life; insecure about herself and her own self worth.  This woman  put words into my mouth that completely blew me away. I wondered if we were speaking the same language. I tried to let her vent when I thought she needed to. I tried to listen to what she was saying. I tried to let her go through whatever she was going through. In the end  my words were twisted into words that were never said. Somehow she heard what she expected to hear- never what was actually said. Recently I emailed her in an attempt to  see if we might have a friendship outside of MLG.  She emailed me back blaming our breakdown on Tom and Me. So – no, we will not have a friendship.  I will let her be the drama queen. I will let her be narcissistic. I will let her be the victim. I will let her be unhappy.  I will let her be who she actually is. I will never forget.

‘Let Them’  Mel Robbins.

What if the key to peace is learning to let people do exactly what they want. Always move towards peace.

Hurt people hurt people.

Postscript – It is so much nicer at MLG without her. Everyone is happy.  There is a peace in the air. April is amazing. Tom is calm. I am not being manipulated. MLG has turned into a very warm and fun place. I am proud to work there. And excited for all the new stuff going on. It has turned into a joy. The support from the community is overwhelming. 

 

 

Let Them

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Let them be upset.
Let them judge you.
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them gossip about you,
Let them ignore you.
Let them be “right.”
Let them doubt you.
Let them not like you.
Let them not speak to you.
Let them run your name in the ground.
Let them make you out to be the villain.
Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!
Kindly step aside and LET THEM.
The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. They just simply don’t care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. They did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel.
The end.
Let them go.
There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they’ve done to you. Let them go.
The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of accountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go.
Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go.
You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.
You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go.
It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.
If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.
Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.
Don’t you dare let them steal your light.
Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.
You are in control of that.
Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.
Let them go.
I don’t have room for friends that carry words for weapons pointed at the backs of others.

Entrophy

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In my attempt to make sense of, and to cope with death and loss, I’ve been reading about the theories of entropy and energy….and thinking about our souls, our unique energy, and what happens to our energy when we die.

Here are some thoughts that I found:

theory of entropy – entropy is the basis of continuum

 According to the second law of thermodynamics the entropy of an isolated system never decreases; such a system will spontaneously evolve toward thermodynamic equilibrium,

Physical chemist Peter Atkins, for example, who previously wrote of dispersal leading to a disordered state, now writes that “spontaneous changes are always accompanied by a dispersal of energy”.[48]

In death there is variation, new beginnings, and chances are unlimited. Dynamics provide a universe that never runs out of variations, but like a fractal creates infinite numbers of the same patterns expressed differently.

And one more….

through thermodynamics, energy can not be created nor destroyed.. it can simply change states. The total amount of energy in an isolated system does not, cannot, change.

According to the law of conservation of energy, when you die not a bit of you is gone; you’re just less orderly.

I believe that your energy will always be there, and that thought gives me great comfort.